Anonymous:
I have a boy issue which I really need some help in deciding what to do. Me & this boy have been friends for a while and we get on well, he fancies me so I have been hanging out& texting him a bit to see how I feel back. He's cute but not amazingly attractive (not that it matters much) but I just don't know whether I feel the same back & I know he wants a relationship but I'm not sure if I do but I don't want to friendzone him but lose his friendship, cause that might happen:/ idk what to do?x

This is actually hilarious because that’s what it was like with my boyfriend before he asked me out. But this could be different for you, of course. The first thing you’re going to need is time. You need to think about how you feel because jumping into a relationship too soon could end what might’ve been a good thing. If you can, find a mutual friend to mention to him to give you time because you’re not sure if you want a relationship or not sure about how you feel. If you don’t have a mutual friend to do that then if he were to ask you out and you still weren’t sure just tell him how you feel. I know someone who was asked twice by the same guy but only said yes the second time, so don’t think it’s not possible. But the main thing that I can advise of you is to decide how you feel about him, and if you don’t feel the same way please be nice and let him down easy in person. Just do what you feel is best for you and I also hope that no matter what you guys stay friends. Good luck xoxo


Anonymous:
hey i was the person who's message didn't fully send. The last part I was just saying that if I don't meet up with him, he said he will be mad/ upset cos this is our only chance and I've given him the impression that I really want to. So I feel really pressured, I know he will never forgive me if I decide not to..

Oh thanks for that. That makes it a little different but not too much. You should be honest with him and tell him how you feel, apologise for getting him worked up with your fake excitement. If he can’t forgive you for not feeling ready to meet up then that’s not being a good friend, even if he is disappointed friends forgive each other. I’m sure that this won’t be your only chance if you guys are or become really close friends. But he’s also sort of right, it may be your only chance in a long time. So think about it. You might regret seeing him but you may regret not seeing him especially if he really does get upset. Just know that if you say no, he will be disappointed. But if you say yes, you might not be ready. Please don’t let him pressure you though, no matter what happens it is your choice. (Also, remember to meet them in a public place around others, cyber safety! :) ) Good luck xoxo


Anonymous:
So I've been speaking to this guy for nearly 2 years now,I met him online and earlier this year I told him that I didn't wanna take our relationship any further and that I just wanted to be friends. We have always discussed meeting each other and that it was only a matter of time, so he recently told me that he's coming to where I live soon so like in 2 weeks and now I'm really not sure if i should meet him or not.. any advice? I'm worried I'll start to like him & I can't let that happen. But h

If you don’t feel ready to meet him, please realise you don’t have to. But it may be good for you to meet him now, just play it safe and meet in a public place if you do meet up. Don’t jump ahead just because you’ve talked online for 2 years, people can be different in real life. The reason I say it may be good to meet him now is because you could spend a lot of time talking to him in the future when you might not turn out to like him as much as you thought, you may not want to be friends with him in the end. I’m not sure why you can’t like him but all I can say is that you do have control over yourself, you won’t necessarily have to start liking him. I’m not sure what you went on to say after that so if it was important please send that last part in again. It’s up to you whether you see him or not, not him or anyone else (even me). Good luck xoxo

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Will answer all messages tomorrow, I promise. I’m too tired right now but I’ll get on to them the first moment I have the time tomorrow xoxo

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I’m sorry to those that I’ve taken a while to respond to, I’ve been busy with life but hopefully I’ve still been able to help you guys :)

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Anonymous:
Hi so I've been having a thing with this guy and he is really sweet and interesting but he might use me but I'm not too sure and he has a lot of drama. Should I back off from the situation or let it keep going? Thanks

Well to start with, if you keep going then you are almost guaranteed to be involved in drama. Are you prepared for that? If you are then there is no reason you can’t keep going towards a relationship. As for him using you, it’s as simple as speaking up the second you feel used. Depending on what happens you can either tell him how you feel and that he needs to stop it or simply break it off there and then. I really hope you can work something out with him since it sounds like you’re really interested in him but still aware of yourself and your needs. Good luck xoxo


Anonymous:
theres a guy who always flirts with me,hugs me,teases me but he has a gf! Why does he do that? Mine and his friends thought we made out on last party and i feel bad about it! I dont want people to think I'm a bitch. How can I ditch him nicely?

The only thing you can do is simply say ‘I want to be friends with you but not like this. You have a girlfriend and should not act like you are into me.’ Or something similar. Also don’t worry, not everyone will see you as a bitch. It isn’t your fault and I’m glad you’re trying to do something about it :) Good luck xoxo


Anonymous:
so, there is this friend i really like,but i dont think that he likes me back(&thats ok bc i dont even want us to be in a relationship, i know its weird).He acts like guys do when they r into someone and the same time he acts like this to other girls too. But last week we went in a group to a party and we were pretty drunk, he gave me so much attention,hugged me alot,we hold hands&had much body contact. Hes also doing a hot&cold thing which really confuses me. And Now im not able to forget him.

It’s not weird at all to like someone and not want to go out with them, I’ve had that happen before. My advice to you would be decide what you want. Do you want him to like you too and then not go into a relationship or is it something else? I remember wanting closure from a bad crush but wanting him to like me back. Obviously your situation is different, but I got over him. So I can’t really help you until you know what you want. But maybe you might want to point out how he acts around you to him and see where it goes from there, I think that no matter what you want that would be a good start. Good luck xoxo

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